YEAH TREVOR!!!!

Hi, I only have a minute to update. I had my back done yesterday. I am miserable and in a lot of pain. It's never hurt like this before. I go in Friday for a Gasteroscopy. I still can't eat. Good news is I am going to need a whole new Spring wardrobe! :) :) I have to see the bright side right now. I am too hungry and sore to deal with the rest.

I titled this post "Yeah Trevor" because he did a HUGE thing for himself today. HUGE! Trevor is a very sensitive child. He takes things very personally and if his feelings are hurt or he is upset he hides and cries alone and licks his wounds. He is non-confrontational most of the time at school and will take any abuse that is handed to him without defending himself. We are working on Trevor being more assertive and to learn that when he talks about things he can usually find a solution.

Yesterday a boy in his class (we'll call him A) called him "mental" (meaning retarded) there was no rhyme or reason for this as they were working in the computer lab and Trevor insists he never said anything. Trevor's friend J tried to defend him and then the boy called J mental. Then A went on to tell some other boys that Trevor stole $20 from J's mom wallet......which he did not. Trevor got very upset. Ironically, Mrs. L was having a mini conference with Ray about Trevor at this exact moment. Trevor left the computer lab and sat in the hall and cried until the student teacher found him. She wouldn't hear the whole story out....she just made A and Trevor shake hands. Trevor was crushed. He didn't understand why A would say things like that about him when he knew they weren't true. Trev came home very upset.

We had long conversations over time about how when things like this happen Trevor needs to use his voice. He needs to speak up and let people know he is hurt and that he would like to talk it out. He let it go yesterday....as Trevor does and spent part of the night fretting over the whole thing. I told Trevor he needed to stand up for himself. He knows he never stole. He knows he is not "mental" he needed to talk to A about it.

Well I called the adjustment counselor a few minutes ago to see if maybe she could talk with the boys involved and Trevor as I had talked to the other moms (I know them well) and we all had decided they should talk it out. I also needed to let Ms. P know about my "surgery" on Friday as Trevor is very stressed over this. Anyhow, I called and before I could say anything she was glowing into the phone about how Trevor came to her, talked to her about his problem and asked if they could all get together to talk it out!!!! I could cry typing this out. HE DID IT!!! He stood up for himself and made his voice heard. She asked him if his mom told him to talk to her and he told her "No, I thought of it all on my own!" YEAH, YEAH, YEAH!!!!

This is huge. Yes, I know I was calling to talk to her but that was because I never in a million years thought he would.....I doubted him and he proved me WRONG!!!! I am having a huge mommy moment and just had to share.

I am sooooo proud of this boy right now!!!! :) :)